4. Why are so many people still under the illusion that a relationship is doomed to endless pain even though they know it is doomed to never return?

Why are so many people still under the illusion that a relationship is doomed to endless pain even though they know it is doomed to never return?

It's like a person who has a nightmare, wakes up, and congratulates himself.

Unfortunately, life is life. It is not a dream, nor a lucky break.

No reluctant feelings, no inseparable from the people, only you do not want to leave, do not want to leave.

Many people's biggest problem is that they do not want or even dare to face the reality, so they are strong in the mouth, but the heart is extremely fragile and soft, they did not see their own indecision, but comfort themselves, all this is fate.

So most of the time when the pain doesn't end, it's when you don't really want to end the pain, or when you don't try to end the pain, to open yourself up, to let go of all the burdens and drags that are causing you pain.

If the pain really can't end, how should we face it?

Like a relationship, it's painful to continue and painful to end -- no matter what you choose. And the fundamental problem that so many people are stuck with is that they're constantly trying to find a solution that doesn't involve any pain, which is, of course, next to wishful thinking.

You say, since I choose anyway is painful, so what is the meaning of choice? So there's no need to make a choice. This kind of initiative to give up the choice of behavior, in fact, is the biggest source of their own sorrow.

The best solution is to make your choice first.